Make Peace Imperfection(不求尽善尽美)

 Make Peace Imperfection
       I've yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenr we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle.Rather than being content and gratel for what we have, we are focused on what's wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what's wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied, discontent.
     Whether it's related to ourselves    a disorganized close, a scratch on the car, an imperfect accomplishment, a few pounds we would like to lose   or someone else's "imperfections" -- the way someone looks, behaves, or lives their life, the very act of focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle. This strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what's wrong with life. It's about realizing that while there's always a better way to do something, this doesn't mean that you can't enjoy and appre-
ciate the way things already are.
     The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Gently remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now. In the absence of your judgment, rything would be fine. As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you' II begin to discover the perfection in life itself.

不求尽善尽美
    我还未碰见过一位在生活中他的内心十分平和的真正的完美主义者。对完美的渴求及对内心平静的热望水火不相容。无论何时我们想用某种比其现存状态更进一步的方式拥有某物时，我们已从理论上陷入了一场失败的战争。我们不是对我们拥有的某物感到满足，心存感激，相反地，我们将注意力集中于该事物的缺点及我们如何弥补这些缺点上。当我们把注意力集中在事物出了什么毛病之时，它意味着我们不满意，不满足。
    不管这是否与我们相关——乱七八糟的院子、车上的划痕、成就中的不足之处、损失的几英镑，或别人的“缺陷”——别人的看法、行为、生活方式，对缺陷的过于关注都阻碍我们变得和蔼可亲。这种策略与我们不再力求完美无关，而与我们太注重生活中的不足之处有关。这是要你意识到尽管有处理某事的更好方法，但这并不意味着你无法欣赏事物的现存状态。
    解决办法是在你习惯地认为事物不应是这种形态而应是别的样子时，你应提醒自己。轻轻地告诉自己现在的生活方式就很好，没有你的评判一切都会变好。当你开始放弃对生活方方面面的完美的追求时，你就会发现生活本身就是完美的。