Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child
      There has long been a view among Chinese that "Spare the rod, spoil the child".  How did this point form and spread through China's long history may cause my curiosity.  Howr,what really interests me is whether this viewpoint is still worthy of adoption in our modern society.
      For one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no possibility of achieving the goal of education:the forming of a child's judgment on right and wrong as well as the dloping of a child's self-control ability. Children are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books,  throwing down vases and etc,which will make you feel rather angry. Punish them or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichr method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only difference is that the former one works on children's fear of penalty and the latter one on their realization of mistakes.  Fears disappearing quickly, children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish them. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and what is banned, the children may avoid the same mistakes in the ture. And little by little,children's judging ability will be dloped. So in the long run,pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted seem wise.
      Similarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode,which somewhat seems a bit violent, harms children's growth and the forming of their characters. "Many s' mental diseases have close relationship with their childhood's penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researches. Further,such education mode may result in children's rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak characters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between two generations. With all these unexpected results, we would better think deeply over this education mode.
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    昔日好友各奔前程，不同的背景和经历改变着彼此，这份友谊还能和从前一样吗?本文很自然地从回忆亲身经历说起，既而提出论点：真正的友谊应该以共同的志向、爱好、观点为依托，以彼此的了解、信任、坦诚和无私为支柱。所以作者认为，各方面与自己效和有益于孩子身心健康的教育方式。具体如何，没有指明，但其观点已隐含于文中，即第二段结尾：向孩子指出错误所在及什么应该做什么不应该做。该文用较短的篇幅成功地表达了反对棍棒教育的观点，是一篇好文章。作者比较注意词语的多样性，如对此教育方式分别使用棍棒教育(rod using)和强调惩罚(penalty emphasizing)表示，生动形象。
    (点评教师：何静)